Misses! Sympathy and discernment is essential.

A bit more sympathy on the part of women's would certainly go a long way here. Even if you cant bear the disclosure, to at least empathise and recognise the challenge we must have over-come to come out, to be thankful for the faith we have demoed in sharing our obscure secrets. If this isnt recognised it produces an psychological chasm between the two parties which can be hard to bridge over.